Making Wise Decisions (524 words):

Life is full of choices, from what friends we want to make, to what clubs we want to join, to what courses we want to take, to what career we want to pursue, to where we want to live, etc. These are just some of the many questions we’ll go on to answer in our lives. The question is, how can we make the best decisions regarding these questions?

One cannot be afraid to make choices for himself/herself. For one thing, you probably won’t have someone else to make the choices for you, so you’re going to have to make the final choice. This doesn’t mean you can’t seek out others’ advice, from your parents and friends to guidance counselors and psychiatrists. But in the end, you have to make the final choice, based on the information available to you and what you feel is the best option for you.

The best way to make informed choices is to talk to people who have knowledge about the dilemma you’re facing. This will vary depending upon the situation. Listen carefully to the words of wisdom they provide. Preferably, get several peoples’ opinions and viewpoints before deciding on any one option.

From their advice and from any research you do on your own, figure out what options you have in regards to the dilemma.

Consider every option carefully and figure out the pros and cons of each option. Weigh the pros and cons of each option and decide which option gives you the best benefits at the lowest cost.

Once you have figured out which option benefits you the most at the least cost/risk, trust yourself to make the right decision and choose that option.

Only time will tell whether you made the right decision; in some cases, you’ll see that you made the right decision and things will go smoothly, according to plan. However, there will be other times when things won’t go smoothly or according to plan, possibly resulting in more complications and problems. This will indicate that you should have probably chosen another option. However, do not beat yourself up over making the wrong choice; this experience will teach you to consider other factors in future decisions you may not have considered in making this decision, thereby helping you grow as a person even when making the wrong decision.

In addition, sometimes things will not go according to plan even when you make a sound decision and the best possible choice at the time, so even though the decision didn’t result in the outcome you thought it would, it still can be a sound, even right, decision at that time. Realize also that finding out that a decision is the wrong decision is looking back in hindsight, and while reflecting on past choices can give you a better perspective of how to avoid future wrong choices, it’s not good to dwell on the past and beat yourself over poor past choices. Once you make your decision based on the information at hand, trust that you did the best you could with the information available and deal with the resulting consequences, good or bad.

How To Motivate Yourself To Improve (545 words):

Improving oneself is a worthwhile goal, but it’s not that easy to achieve. It takes motivation, desire, and commitment to improve oneself. Here are some tips to help you find that elusive motivation to improve yourself:

– Avoid negative people.

Negative people are not a good influence on you to stay motivated to improve yourself; their negative attitudes and feelings will rub off on you the more you spend time with them, listening to their negativity. Eventually, it will wear you down, causing you to doubt yourself and your abilities, even causing depression if the negativity is strong enough and persistent enough. Therefore, to the best of your ability, try to avoid negative people as much as possible, and when it’s not possible, don’t focus on the negativity they portray.

– Believe in yourself and your abilities.

Never doubt yourself; when doubt starts creeping into your mindset, you start to lose the confidence and will to do things and to change things for the better. You think, “I should keep doing what I am doing because I can’t do any better.” If you do that, you’ll continue to get the same results, and if you’re not happy with those results, it will just lead to frustration, despair, and depression, so never get down on yourself for who you are. Always believe in yourself and your abilities.

– Have good realtionships with your family and friends.

Your family and friends can also help to motivate you to achieve more when you are down and can’t seem to get yourself up to improve your life. Talking to your family and friends can help give you the strength you need to meet life’s challenges when you yourself can’t motivate yourself to meet them head-on. It’s always good to have close, good relationships with your family and friends whenever possible – after all, it’s better to not take on your challenges alone whenever you don’t have to because “there’s strength in numbers.”

– Don’t lie, cheat, or steal to make things happen.

If you lie, cheat, and/or steal to improve yourself, you really cheat yourself out of improvement because you’ll miss the main point on why you want to improve yourself, and that is to become better and feel better about yourself. You won’t feel better about yourself if you cheat someone else out of that well-deserved promotion or if you steal money from a friend because you “needed” the money. There is never a shortcut or easy way to improve oneself; it always takes hard work. Cheating one’s way to improvement is not improvement, and in the end, you will be down on yourself and despise yourself for cheating, lying, or stealing to gain improvement.

– Stop procrastinating.

Again, if you delay in making changes or taking action, you’ll be doing the same things you are doing now, and as a result, you’ll be getting the same results, so unless you are happy with your life as is, don’t keep putting off what you can do today. After all, time is limited and you can’t get back days you let pass by with no action. As the old saying goes, “nothing ventured, nothing gained.” Make use of every day to make yourself the best person you can be.

Improving Your Own Attractiveness (518 words):

For those looking to start a romantic relationship with another person, often one will worry about whether he/she is physically attractive enough to draw the attention of the person he/she is interested in attracting to himself/herself. Of course, you can make sure to present yourself in the best possible shape, not just because most people find people in good shape to be physically attractive, but also because being in good physical shape is healthy for you.

However, while physical attraction is important, especially to get that other person’s attention, it’s not the only aspect of a person’s being that will help you keep that other person attracted to you. Your emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being are important to keeping a long-term relationship going as well.

One of the most important things one can do to improve his/her attractiveness is to truly know oneself, including one’s beliefs, values, dreams, passions, goals, etc. After all, how can you present yourself to another person if you don’t know what you are all about? Therefore, figure out what truly drives you, what makes you “you.” Then, don’t be afraid to show that to the person you are interested in. After all, it doesn’t make much sense to pretend to be someone you are not; while trying to please the person you are interested in may seem like a noble idea and may be what he/she would want you to do, in reality, it will cause both of you disappointment and frustration over wasting time on someone who is really not compatible with you for a long-term relationship. It’s better to show who you truly are – that way, there are no hard feelings if you both realize this is a relationship not worth pursuing. Who knows – you may become friends, and that’s certainly a worthwhile reward in its own right.

A related idea to this is the fact that you should be self-confident about yourself and what you are all about; don’t doubt yourself or think that something is wrong with you because you can’t attract the person you want to attract. Don’t forget, as the old saying goes, “It takes two to tango.” There’s nothing wrong with you because one person doesn’t feel the attraction that the other feels for that person; it’s not easy for the same two people to feel the same feelings for each other, especially right away, but sometimes, feelings can develop over time. The most important thing, and attractive thing, is to have self-confidence in who you are and not apologize or feel bad over being something or not being something that the other person is looking for. You can’t please everyone, and there is no perfect person. Part of the process of a good relationship is to accept each other’s weaknesses, as well as their strengths. This applies to both people; don’t look for perfection in the person you are attracted, just as they shouldn’t expect you to be perfect. Be proud of who you are and what you believe in: that can only help you be the most attractive person you can be.

10 Questions To Help You Improve Yourself and Your Life

10 Questions To Help You Improve Yourself and Your Life (719 words):

Every person wants to improve himself/herself to become the best he/she can be. In order to help one to do just that, one should analyze himself/herself with these 10 questions.

1. What do I really want?

So simple a question, yet so difficult to answer. The ultimate answer to this question lies in finding something you are good at, but also enjoy doing. The only way you can know for sure whether you want to do this for a good part of your life is through due diligence of doing that activity for a while.

2. Should I really change?

This question deals with whether you really want to make changes to your current lifestyle. This will take time and effort; the question is, is it worth it to you to put in this time and effort to change your lifestyle? What are the reasons for changing your lifestyle? Only you can answer the question of whether it’s worth it or not.

3. What’s the bright side in all of this?

This questions should remind you that analyzing your life and deciding whether to change your lifestyle or not should not be seen as a negative or as an interrogation, but rather, as a way to grow and become a better person, no matter whether you decide to make changes to your lifestyle or not.

4. Am I comfortable with what I’m doing?

This question should remind you that you should be comfortable in your lifestyle because you are a unique individual. Your tastes in fashion, food, recreation, humor, etc. won’t be the same as anyone else’s, and it shouldn’t be the same. No one’s tastes should be exactly the same as anyone else’s.

5. Have I done enough for myself?

This question should help you focus on whether there is something more you want to do in your life, such as take up a new hobby, help out with a charitable cause, get more involved in community gatherings, go to or go back to college, etc. In small doses, discontentment can help propel you to want to achieve more in your life.

6. Am I happy at where I am today?

As mentioned at the beginning of this article, every person tries to strive to be the best person he/she can be. If you’re doing something well, see if you can do it even better. Or, see if you can do something else just as well as the first activity; even try doing both activities at a high level at the same time.

7. Am I appealing to the opposite sex?

No matter what improvements you make to make yourself more attractive to the opposite sex, including getting in better physical shape, becoming more intelligent, wearing different clothing, wearing your hair in a different style, etc., you will improve yourself regardless of whether you attract that special someone you want to attract or not.

8. How much could I have?

This question focuses on how hard you are working and how hard you want to work. Just about everyone wants lots of money, a great home, a great car, the ability to go on long vacations whenever they choose, but the question is, are you willing to do what it takes to achieve those desires and dreams? Only you have the power to improve your life if you truly want to.

9. What motivates me?

This question will cause you to really focus on what drives you in your life, whether it be your faith, your desire for a better lifestyle, your wanting to please others and fit in with them, etc. You have to examine deep-down what really causes you to want to excel in all that you do.

10. What really makes you tick?

This question focuses on the idea that you can be just about anything you want to be, but if you start focusing too much on the obstacles in your way to that dream, then you are already allowing yourself to be defeated before you can even begin achieving that dream. You can overcome virtually any obstacle if you really want that dream, but the real question is, how badly do you want that dream and what are you willing to do to reach that dream (within legal and ethical limits, of course)?

10 Ways to Improve Your Communication Skills (543 words):

Communication is as important today as it ever was, if not more so. Your ability to speak increases your ability to find new work, new friends, and even that new special “someone.” These 10 tips should help you improve your communication skills.

1. What you know.

We all have our limitations in our speaking ability, but the only way to overcome and improve our limitations is by getting out there and speaking. If you’re uncomfortable speaking in front of large groups, the only way you’ll overcome it is by going out and speaking in front of large groups.

2. Listening.

It’s important to listen to the sounds of our own voices so as to know how to emphasize with our voice how strongly we believe in something or know something to be correct. One of the qualities of a good speaker is being able to use his/her voice to emphasize points that should be emphasized.

3. Humility.

We all make mistakes, and nobody knows everything, so don’t be afraid to ask others if you’re pronouncing certain words correctly. If they’re unsure about the pronunciation, you can even turn it into a joke that everyone will likely find amusing, which will show them that you have a way with words as well.

4. Eye Contact.

A good speaker will make regular eye contact with everyone in a group; don’t just focus your eyes on one person.

5. Kidding around.

Adding humor into one’s speech can lift the tension or boredom of a speech, refocusing the attention of the audience on your speech, as well as showing them that you are approachable and human too.

6. Be like the rest of them.

Communicating with others is important because it helps improve your own communication skills, as well as helping you find out what people are really like inside.

7. Me, Myself, and I.

Practicing your speech in front of a mirror is a great way to improve the delivery of your speech because it can help you learn what parts of your speech are the best parts to emphasize with your voice. Practicing your speech aloud can also help you improve the content of your speech as well, since you can hear it aloud as well.

8. With a smile.

A smile is just as important as eye contact. It helps to let others know you’re enjoying talking with them because it helps to put everyone at ease and allows everyone to be themselves. In addition, smiling can show you are approachable and human as well.

9. A role model.

It helps to have someone you’ve listened to in your life who was a good public speaker; remember how he/she emphasized certain parts of his/her speeches and how he/she delivered those speeches? Use that as a reference to help you improve the delivery of your own speeches.

10. Preparation.

Take some time to prepare before the speech; write down your most important points/ideas on an index card to help keep your train of thought throughout the speech. Practice beforehand if possible as well – delivering the speech to yourself in front of a mirror will do. And most importantly, relax and do your best – chances are, your speech will be delivered eloquently and effectively.