Life is full of choices, from what friends we want to make, to what clubs we want to join, to what courses we want to take, to what career we want to pursue, to where we want to live, etc. These are just some of the many questions we’ll go on to answer in our lives. The question is, how can we make the best decisions regarding these questions?
One cannot be afraid to make choices for himself/herself. For one thing, you probably won’t have someone else to make the choices for you, so you’re going to have to make the final choice. This doesn’t mean you can’t seek out others’ advice, from your parents and friends to guidance counselors and psychiatrists. But in the end, you have to make the final choice, based on the information available to you and what you feel is the best option for you.
The best way to make informed choices is to talk to people who have knowledge about the dilemma you’re facing. This will vary depending upon the situation. Listen carefully to the words of wisdom they provide. Preferably, get several peoples’ opinions and viewpoints before deciding on any one option.
From their advice and from any research you do on your own, figure out what options you have in regards to the dilemma.
Consider every option carefully and figure out the pros and cons of each option. Weigh the pros and cons of each option and decide which option gives you the best benefits at the lowest cost.
Once you have figured out which option benefits you the most at the least cost/risk, trust yourself to make the right decision and choose that option.
Only time will tell whether you made the right decision; in some cases, you’ll see that you made the right decision and things will go smoothly, according to plan. However, there will be other times when things won’t go smoothly or according to plan, possibly resulting in more complications and problems. This will indicate that you should have probably chosen another option. However, do not beat yourself up over making the wrong choice; this experience will teach you to consider other factors in future decisions you may not have considered in making this decision, thereby helping you grow as a person even when making the wrong decision.
In addition, sometimes things will not go according to plan even when you make a sound decision and the best possible choice at the time, so even though the decision didn’t result in the outcome you thought it would, it still can be a sound, even right, decision at that time. Realize also that finding out that a decision is the wrong decision is looking back in hindsight, and while reflecting on past choices can give you a better perspective of how to avoid future wrong choices, it’s not good to dwell on the past and beat yourself over poor past choices. Once you make your decision based on the information at hand, trust that you did the best you could with the information available and deal with the resulting consequences, good or bad.