Improving Your Own Attractiveness (518 words):
For those looking to start a romantic relationship with another person, often one will worry about whether he/she is physically attractive enough to draw the attention of the person he/she is interested in attracting to himself/herself. Of course, you can make sure to present yourself in the best possible shape, not just because most people find people in good shape to be physically attractive, but also because being in good physical shape is healthy for you.
However, while physical attraction is important, especially to get that other person’s attention, it’s not the only aspect of a person’s being that will help you keep that other person attracted to you. Your emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being are important to keeping a long-term relationship going as well.
One of the most important things one can do to improve his/her attractiveness is to truly know oneself, including one’s beliefs, values, dreams, passions, goals, etc. After all, how can you present yourself to another person if you don’t know what you are all about? Therefore, figure out what truly drives you, what makes you “you.” Then, don’t be afraid to show that to the person you are interested in. After all, it doesn’t make much sense to pretend to be someone you are not; while trying to please the person you are interested in may seem like a noble idea and may be what he/she would want you to do, in reality, it will cause both of you disappointment and frustration over wasting time on someone who is really not compatible with you for a long-term relationship. It’s better to show who you truly are – that way, there are no hard feelings if you both realize this is a relationship not worth pursuing. Who knows – you may become friends, and that’s certainly a worthwhile reward in its own right.
A related idea to this is the fact that you should be self-confident about yourself and what you are all about; don’t doubt yourself or think that something is wrong with you because you can’t attract the person you want to attract. Don’t forget, as the old saying goes, “It takes two to tango.” There’s nothing wrong with you because one person doesn’t feel the attraction that the other feels for that person; it’s not easy for the same two people to feel the same feelings for each other, especially right away, but sometimes, feelings can develop over time. The most important thing, and attractive thing, is to have self-confidence in who you are and not apologize or feel bad over being something or not being something that the other person is looking for. You can’t please everyone, and there is no perfect person. Part of the process of a good relationship is to accept each other’s weaknesses, as well as their strengths. This applies to both people; don’t look for perfection in the person you are attracted, just as they shouldn’t expect you to be perfect. Be proud of who you are and what you believe in: that can only help you be the most attractive person you can be.
